"Your forehead is big o"

And so fokeen what????

Mar 04, 2025

Yes, my forehead is big. And so fokeen what?????

Notice how I didn't say “and so fucking what?” I said “and so FOKEEN what?!” While it's true that it is a subtle insertion of humor, it is only “fokeen” that can express the amount of exasperation that I feel every time someone says “your forehead is big o.” Yes, because it is annoying, but also because MY FOREHEAD IS NOT THAT BIG.

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The first time I felt self-conscious about it was in Mommy Rahmat's shop. Every Saturday, my mother would send me off to her shop (well, salon) with a green bag that contained all my hair products. I remember the faded “Ademide weds Tolani” print on the bag. I wasn't a big fan of getting my hair touched, so she would add a lot of goodies for Mommy Rahmat to “chook” in my mouth when I started crying.

That day, I made all-back. If you're a black woman, then you know how all-back (or cornrows) work. Your skin starts to glow, you get a natural face-lift, and most important, your forehead starts to shine. Mommy Rahmat looked at me and said, “the girl is fine o, but this her forehead.” Ahahn? What happened to my forehead?? Is something on it??

The woman in the shop next to hers laughed, and I felt so ashamed of myself. I thought something was wrong with me.

The second time, I was getting ready for my uncle’s wedding. I felt so pretty that day, until it was time to tie my gele. Everything was going fine until Anty Dupe said; “I like tying gele for people with big foreheads. It sits so well.” Anty Dupe did not mean it as an insult (or maybe she did)

But I didn't feel pretty anymore. Throughout the wedding, I kept tugging at my gele, I didn't want anyone to see my forehead. I didn't even stand up to collect food, and that is the most painful part. I mean, at the time, it wasn't. But now it is, and I am angry!

And then I liked a boy in my class, let's call him Paul. Occasionally, someone would make a joke about my forehead, and because I did not want them to think I wasn't chill, I would laugh. When Paul and I finally started talking, I was so happy. Until he told me that when he gets married in the future, he would build his house on my forehead. I cried.

Now that I think about it, maybe I had bad taste, but then again, I was 13 years old. Paul was not even fine like that🙄

I started covering my “big forehead” with my scarf, I still do, sometimes. I know I'm not ugly, at all. But once in a while I wonder if I'd be more beautiful if my forehead wasn't as “big”

But yes, my forehead is big, and so fokeen what???

Notice how I didn't say “and so fucking what?” I said “and so FOKEEN what?!” While it's true that it is a subtle insertion of humor, it is only “fokeen” that can express the amount of exasperation that I feel every time someone says “your forehead is big o.” Yes, because it is annoying, but also because MY FOREHEAD IS NOT THAT BIG.

Even if it is, once again, and so fokeen what?? You people that make “jokes” about people's bodies and act like everything is cool, I want to tell you that you will not escape what is coming for you.

“But it's not that deep, I didn't think she would deep it like that.”

Your head is not correct.

If you're like me, and once in a while, you think about what people say about your body, next time you think you're ugly, just say “and so fokeen what?!” because actually, and so fokeen what?😭✋🏾 you're a hot babe (or guy) so who cares about what they think???

“your stomach is big” and so fokeen what?

“You don't have bumbum” that one use to pain me but still, and so fokeen what???

“you're short o” shut up, once again, and so fokeen what??

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